Day Seventeen - Visitors, Friends and Fakes!

Do we ever know who a true friend is?  How do you know when someone is "playing" at being your friend?  Ann Radcliffe said "I never trust people's assertions; I judge them by their actions." how true that statement might be....for there are many people in my life that speak face to face with me and say they are my friend, speak encouragement, give well wishes, etc but the moment I am out of the line of sight or not within ear shot anymore the story changes.  I have had several visitors of the last sixteen days, some that I would not have expected and some that completely surprised me!  There are some "friends" that I am frankly shocked that I haven't seen.  I didn't expect gifts or even cards but a visit from a close friend would have been nice....guess they weren't as close as I thought huh.  Now maybe I trust too much.  I have been known over the years to do that....believe in people and trust them whole heartedly .....but I always end up disappointed.  "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you do not trust enough" (Frank Crane)  I embarked on this journey starting only with my husband and family behind me, then a few close friends.  As my blog grew and the supporters grew there was also the non supporters that grew.  In a perfect life or world there wouldn't be non supporters but we don't live in a perfect world and there is not perfect life.  Today I have many supporters and I thank them all.  To those non supporters that continue to read my blog I only have one thing to say......HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!  That's right the joke is on you.  I am already down 55 lbs and will continue to progress and have success....do you know why?   Because I don't have to believe or trust in you....I only have to believe and trust in myself.  I have heard lots of the same ole crap..."Stephanie can't stay with this", "she won't succeed" oh here's a good one "Once fat always fat".  That one is my personal favourite to date.  Many non supporters were so concerned about me changing after surgery.....Yeah I have changed ..... I am 4 sizes smaller and much happier so thanks for your concern! I have also learned that I need not be hurt or disappointed in people because I should never have expected anything better from them in the first place.  The wonderful friends in my life and you know who you are ....thank you and I love you all!  Each one of you holds a special place in my heart.  I am going back to work in 8 days....and I can walk in with my head held high knowing that I am on my road to success and that I am a trusting person but I am also a smart lady and know who the fakes are!  That's right folks I can fake it just as well as you ....I keep smiling and being friendly but I know you are talking about me and that's your right talk about who you want to, say what you need to make yourself feel better just know that I know what you are saying!  A comic named Randy K Milholland said " There are people I know that won't hurt me, I call them corpses."  It was pretty funny but now that I have thought about it ....it is very sad.  Does this mean these distrustful people should just be dead to me?  Stay tuned and I will let you all know what conclusion I come to about this question.
Steph